Conversations about consent should happen way before the sex talk... Here’s why.

Modern Parenting Tips
By
Cyber Dive
Nov 5, 2021
4 min read

It's never too early to start teaching kids about consent. These are consistent conversations you should begin having when your kids are young. One of the most important parts of an individual's sexual health is understanding how to set healthy body boundaries, what it means to give and receive consent and how to practice that in their own relationships. Teaching children about consent gives them the tools they need to advocate for their own safety and respect the boundaries set by others. When it comes to sexual assault, they must understand when someone has overstepped these boundaries and how they can be an advocate for preventing this type of abuse.

What is considered sexual assault?

Sexual assault is any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient. It can take many forms and may include: subtle manipulation, unwanted touching, grabbing, groping, sexually rubbing against you, penetration with an object, oral sex against your will, forced sex, attempted rape or completed rape.

Importance of Teaching Consent

Sexual assault prevention begins with teaching kids about what consent means.

Consent is the act of voluntarily agreeing to engage in sexual activity with someone else. Without consent, it can be illegal or morally wrong to initiate sexual contact with another person. Your child needs to know that consent is an ongoing process and it never has to be given for one specific act. For example, they cannot assume that because their partner consented to kiss them earlier in the night that they want to have sex later on. Consent must be obtained every time there is a change in sexual activity.

Setting an Example For Giving and Receiving Consent

Now, you can talk with your child about what consent is and what it looks like, but it's crucial that they are surrounded by people that model this behavior. Adults often neglect a young child's right to give consent when it comes to innocent physical interactions. If your child grows up in an environment where they are being physically touched without being asked, whether it's being picked up, hugged or put onto people's laps, they will have a difficult time understanding their right to say yes or no in these situations. While these interactions appear harmless and not a sexual act they have the potential to skew a child's perception of what consent really is.

If they are unaware of the importance of consent, as they get older, they will likely be more hesitant to set boundaries and stand by them when someone is attempting to violate them. They will have also not developed the habit of asking others for consent, putting them in the position of being the perpetrator. Ultimately, teaching and exhibiting consent will help your child understand that it is a necessity in all types of relationships.

Starting the Conversation

Initiating these types of conversations isn't always easy and can sometimes feel forced. But not having them is much worse. Here are some things you should include when teaching your child about consent and sexual assault.

  • They always have the right to say "no" to any unwanted touching. Children are frequently instructed to be obedient and follow the rules, so this message isn't always obvious. If they are young, make sure they understand which parts are private and why other people shouldn't look at or touch them there.
  • Keeping secrets with strangers is never a good idea. Encourage them to always come to you if something happens that doesn't sit right with them or they are asked specifically to keep it from you.
  • Assure them they won't be blamed or judged for coming to you with questions or needing to talk about anything related to consent or assault. By creating this safe space, they will feel more inclined to openly share their thoughts and experiences with you. When they do approach you and want to have a conversation, make time for it and give your full, uninterrupted attention so that they know they are heard.
  • As they get older and are exposed to instances of sexual assault, whether it be online, in the media or regarding people they know personally, it's important to keep these conversations going. Ask their opinion on these situations so that you can see how their viewpoint and understanding of consent and assault has developed. Are they seeing sexual assault happening frequently amongst teens their age? Do they know how to support a friend who has experienced sexual assault?

The responsibility to educate your children on the importance of consent is a shared one. In order for this message to be received, we must make sure that they are surrounded by people who model these behaviors and illustrate how important it is in all types of relationships. If you find yourself struggling with where to start or what your child may need from you, simply start by asking them questions and figuring out what they know. You want your child to feel safe and confident when having these talks because it will help you further nurture an open and honest relationship.


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