5 Ways to Reconnect With Your Child

Modern Parenting Tips
By
Cyber Dive
May 19, 2021
3 min read

Seeing eye to eye with your child can often be a challenge, especially with teens. They are growing up fast, becoming more independent, experiencing mood swings and discovering new interests. The things you used to do together to strengthen your relationship may need to be updated. As they get older, it can be difficult to get one on one time and even when you do get it, they often don’t jump at the chance to talk to you about the things they may be struggling with or going through. What works for one family may not work for another so it’s important to focus on the things that will benefit you and your child’s relationship. So how can you break through and continue to feel connected with your child?

1. Be intentional with the timing of your conversations.

Approaching your child when they appear to be receptive to talking and/or listening can drastically affect the outcome of your conversations. Teens and pre-teens often have a wide range of moods and it can be difficult to predict when they are in the headspace to open up or take advice. But it will likely be counterproductive to catch them at a time when they are upset or exhausted and try to force them into a serious conversation. They will likely be closed off to hearing what you have to say and could then develop a negative association with these types of conversations.

2. Have a clear understanding of the conversation’s purpose.

When you find yourself in a situation where your child is looking to open up to you, ask them what they are looking to get out of this conversation. Do they want your advice? Or are they just wanting someone to listen? If your child is just looking to vent, bombarding them with your two cents could do more harm than good. Having the green light to give advice means they are in the headspace to be receptive and will not dismiss your input.

3. Create a judgment-free environment.

Children often avoid seeking out their parent’s advice out of fear. Fear that they will be disappointed, fear of an uncomfortable situation or fear of judgment. To avoid this, focus on creating a space free of condescending comments and questions. Don’t make your child feel like you are looking to catch them in their mistakes or taking these as opportunities for a teachable moment. Be receptive, respectful when giving advice and always remind them that you love them unconditionally.

4. Pay attention to the small details.

As your child’s hobbies and interests continue to change, it can feel like a full-time job keeping up. But, showing interest in the small aspects of your child’s life can make a big difference. They feel seen, heard and valued when the people in their life remember the little things they are interested in. This will also give you more to talk about with your child. Simple conversations asking them what video games they’ve been playing, if they have met any new friends or what their favorite fashion trend is could get them talking and teach you so much about your child!

5. Find something you both enjoy and make time to do it together.

Maybe you and your child used to spend hours throwing the baseball around in the yard but now they’ve grown up and lost interest. Do you both enjoy art? Is there a movie you have both been dying to see? Or do you both enjoy lazy days getting to eat your favorite snacks? Whatever it may be, begin to prioritize making this a part of you and your child’s life. This gives you some guaranteed one-on-one time and creates the potential to really connect with one another.

Keep in mind that these things do not guarantee that your child will unload every detail of their life right off the bat. But over time, they may begin to feel more inclined to come to you when they need advice or need someone to listen. Based on past conversations, they can trust that your intentions are to benefit them always. This can lead to a more open and honest relationship, allowing you to gain that deeper connection you have been longing for!

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Larissa Marulli
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"It's encouraging to know that, as parents, you do not have to be left in the dark, you can be involved. That's quite a powerful tool."
Elizabeth Smart
Elizabeth Smart Foundation
"Helping parents prepare for the gamut of situations to which social media opens the door has made [Cyber Dive] venture more valuable than the bottom line."
Georgann Yara
azcentral
"If we're concerned about stranger danger... what about a stranger getting into your child's direct messages? It can be just as dangerous, if not more so."
Billy Harfosh
iHeartRadio
"In a society that relies so much on virtual connection, it is necessary that we teach our children how to navigate and use technology responsibly."
Dawn Van Camp
Co-Founder of The Mama Army
"As a Lawman and a parent I love seeing solutions for protecting children from the child predators. This Aqua One phone helps parents and even addresses the mental health of the child. Well done Cyber Dive."
Sheriff Mark Lamb
Sheriff of Pinal County Arizona
"[Aqua One] was just launched and is going to change the way that our children grow up in a technology-driven world."
Desire Briggs
Co-Founder of The Mama Army
“One of the neatest parts about the tool is that it gives insight into not only the safety of what my child is doing out there but what my child is thinking.”
Brian Steele
CEO of Phoenix Dream Center
“Being informed of your child's social media habits isn't just beneficial from a safety standpoint. You'll get an inside look at what your kid is into and enjoying.”
Larissa Marulli
moms.com

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